The typical divorce decree says that Dad gets the children for visitation at any time that the parties agree to for an afternoon, for a weekend, for a week, etc. The decree will also contain "fallback" provisions for the times when Dad and Mom can't agree; in 99% of all cases, the "fallback schedule" is the "standard possession order," a schedule which comes straight out of
the Family Code (§§153.311 et seq.) and represents the collective wisdom of our State Legislature.
The basics of the standard possession order are that the visitation parent (pardon me for assuming that it's Dad) gets the children:
1. On weekends, beginning at 6:00 PM on the first, third, and fifth Fridays of each month and ending at 6:00 PM the following Sunday. If Dad's weekend comes near a Friday or Monday school holiday (or a legal holiday during the summer), then Dad gets the extra day.
Dad can elect (the choice is made prior to the order being signed, not on an ad hoc basis) to have his visitation periods begin when school lets out (as opposed to 6:00 pm) and have them end when school resumes in other words, Mom would drop the child off at school on Thursday morning, and Dad would pick up the child from school that afternoon and keep him until Monday morning when he would take the child to school. Mom would pick up the child from school on Monday afternoon.
2. Every Thursday evening during the school year (approximately nine months), from 6:00-8:00 PM, or overnight if Dad chooses (the choice is made prior to the order being signed, not on an ad hoc basis).
3. During Spring Break in even-numbered years. If the parties live more than 100 miles from each other, the father gets the child every Spring Break.
4. For 30 days during the summer (the mother gets one weekend during the 30 days if she chooses). This can be 30 consecutive days, or the father can split it into (no more than) two periods. If the parties live more than 100 miles from each other, Dad's summer visitation is 42 days.
5. The Thanksgiving holidays every other year (Wednesday at 6:00 pm until the following Sunday at 6:00 pm, or Wednesday when school lets out until the following Monday morning when Dad takes the child to school).
6. For part of the Christmas school holidays. The holidays are split into two periods: Period A is from 6:00 pm on the day school lets out for the holidays (or 3:30 pm when school lets out) until noon on December 28; Period B lasts from noon on December 28 until 6:00 pm on the day before school resumes in January (or, in the alternative, at the time school resumes after the holidays Dad takes the child to school that morning). In even-numbered years, the father will have his Christmas visitation during Period A and the next year (odd-numbered years) he'll have his visitation during Period B, alternating back and forth. The dividing point is always the same (December 28 at noon); the starting day and ending day depend on the school calendar each year in the district where the child lives. The effect of this is that the child spends Christmas day with a different parent each year.
7. On Father's Day weekend. The mother always gets the child on Mother's Day weekend.
Under the traditional setup, a weekend visitation is: Dad comes to Mom's house on Friday at 6:00 pm and picks up the child; Dad returns the child to Mom on the following Sunday at 6:00 pm (exactly 48 hours). Under the alternative setup ("expanded standard"), Dad picks up the child at school at 3:45 pm on Thursday and keeps him unitl Monday morning when he takes him to school at 8:15 am (a total of about 59 hours).